Tuesday, 24 July 2012

The fight continues!

I have just read my lovely friend Sara Diana Williams blog! Once again this brave and outstanding woman has made me feel so much better about my illness! Considering what Sara has gone through in the last 3 years, it puts my illness in to the shade! 

The only problem I have with my illness is the fact that nobody can see it! Nobody can see that I am in pain, that each new day brings a new challenge - the latest one being stomach cramps every time I eat or drink anything and the constant feeling that I need to go to the toilet! I also seem to have problems with my thermostat! I can be sitting in a room where the temperature remains the same, and I can feel myself going hot from the tip of my toes to the top of my head, finishing with flushed cheeks and hot ears! Weird I know, but that is exactly how it feels! Each time something happens I go back to the wonderful internet and look it up and find that it is yet another side effect of having Fibro! How many more can there be I ask myself, or is it just a ploy by the doctors to keep us out of their surgery, just add another symptom to the Fibro, they won't know any difference!

I will say the stomach cramps have been horrific, a bit like period pains but I know it can't be that as I have no baby carriage - as my wonderful eldest son called it when I had my hysterectomy! He was only 5 at the time I had my operation, and he couldn't say hysterectomy or understand what it was, so my mum, bless her heart, tried to explain to him what a hysterectomy was! Putting it in the simplest of terms worked, they had taken away my baby carriage, the place where he and his brother had slept when they were being 'cooked', and as it was now not very well and I didn't need it any more, the doctors were taking it away! Oh the fun we had when he went into school and told them that! The teacher he had, Miss Evans, was a very tall lady, with a wicked sense of humour, and she found this analogy delightful! I did, however, find it quite difficult to know what to say when some of the little girls in my son's class came over and asked me why I had a pram in my tummy! Trust the girls to see it differently, we really are a very different breed to men! (Thank goodness!!)

Anyway, I digress, I have been having a bad time since I returned from my holiday, I have been very emotional, in fact the silliest little thing has me in floods of tears, the world seems like such a rotten place at the moment, everywhere I turn there is something awful going on! This last month has seen some crazed man in Denver go into a cinema that was showing the new Batman movie and shoot down and kill innocent people, including some young children; Belfast City Council has put to sleep a completely innocent dog because of the Breed Specific Legislation, a ridiculous law that needs to be stopped, and this has left a little 9 year old girl heartbroken at the loss of her beautiful pet!  If they had been putting down a rapist or a paedophile I could have understood that, but not a completely innocent dog whose only crime was having some pit bull in him!

On the other side of the coin I have had some really happy times and some good news in the last month too, and this is what I am trying to focus on right now to keep me on the right track and make the most of every day. My mum, who I miss with all my heart and every fibre of my being, used to say to me 'This is not a dress rehearsal our Sharon, this is it, you have to make the most of every day, because you won't get another chance'. Life is what we make of it, there will always be sadness, there will always be happiness, and as long as I can stay happy, or at least be on the middle ground, I know I can keep this illness under control! This bloody annoying, painful and downright horrible illness will not rule me, I am in charge and I will make the most of each day!  So there!

Tuesday, 17 July 2012

Back again!

Well after a wonderful holiday in Spain I have come back down to earth with a hell of a bump! I returned on Sunday of last week, the 8th July, and since then it has been a pretty awful 9 days! I have been in the most horrific pain, to the extent that I have been in tears, and then on Friday last I awoke with a headache that completely floored me, I felt exhausted, and everything I tried to do was like climbing a mountain!
Since then, I have tried really hard to work through the illness that is Fibromyalgia, all to no avail, and on Sunday I had to give in and spend the day in bed! When I tried to get out of bed on Friday, the whole room spun, I felt sick and I literally fell back into bed! My head felt like it would burst and my ears actually burned and were bright red and hurt to touch! I then found out that there is a virus going around, and these were the symptoms! I would say it likened to my thermometer going haywire and not working! One minute I was shivering with cold, the next I had to turn the fan on, in fact both Saturday and Sunday night I had to sleep with the fan on! Poor Richard was wrapped in the quilt with it up to his neck, and I was lying there dripping in sweat! The fact that I spent two days in bed is rare, but after spending a wonderful holiday resting, I think it all got a bit too much having to come home to the cleaning, washing and the bills to sort out, and of course the wonderful British weather!
As we left the apartment in Spain, at 10.30 in the morning, the temperature was 32 degrees and rising, and as we came into the UK the temperature was 16 degrees and dropping! Quite a shock for my body I think, and perhaps why I have suddenly hit that damned brick wall and come to a complete full stop!
The one good thing that we came back to was a cheque that was sent from a PPI claim that we had started about 18 months ago! Because of this we have decided to take another holiday later this year, we weren't sure we would be able to have another holiday until much later this year, but now we have decided to use some of the money for another break. I am so much better when I am out in the sunshine, in fact I would say I am like a new woman! The pain is still there but because I am resting more and in the heat, it is more manageable!
When I was out in Spain, I was really looking forward to the fact that the Bar and Restaurant on site was open, and I was hoping to be able to walk round there for a drink and a meal, but I had forgotten just how far it was to the bar, and poor Richard had to drive round because it was just too far for me! Really frustrating to be away in such beautiful weather and not be well enough to walk as far as the bar! Fortunately Richard is not much of a drinker, and a couple of beers and a glass of wine is as much as he will have in an evening, and the roads on site are also private, so there is no chance of the police coming into the resort without us all knowing, as they would have to come through the security gates, and even they would have to stop and show their I.D.!!
I will say though that Coppola's was an absolute delight, the staff, the food, the ambience, everything about it was right! They had entertainment on at the weekends, and since we have returned from holiday they have also started a Quiz night on a Monday and a Karaoke and Disco night on a Wednesday (not my favourite is Karaoke!!), but the best thing of all is that the resort has lots of Spanish people living there, the entertainment is in Spanish and English, and one staff member, the wonderful Alicia, has been helping us with our Spanish, so we have come on leaps and bounds with our language skills during this break!  


 Alicia is the one on the far left next to me, behind Richard is Paco the chef, and I am unsure of the names of the other people, but the man in the blue checked shirt is the owner and the young boy is Paco's son! They asked us for a photo because we are now part of the Coppola's family!


Alicia and another staff member serving up our wonderful paella!



Richard having a lovely afternoon of golf, I drove the cart!


Alicia and I on our last night! I miss her very much, delightful young lady who was always smiling! She also used to spoil Jess, who became quite a celebrity, and bring her out pieces of steak! Paco, the chef, also used to bring Jess slices of ham when the boss wasn't looking!

While we were out in Spain, the dog was with us, and she became quite a celebrity with everyone! People would come and speak to us, many people thought we lived there because we had the dog with us! In the evening when we started to get ready to go out, Jess would start 'padding', and as soon as I said 'are you coming to the pub', she would start making a lot of noise, and would pick up her bag with her bowl, chews and toy in it! It was so funny to watch her! Because she is such a good dog, we never put her on the lead when we walk her, but because often people were eating we would put her on the lead until we found a seat. She would carry her bag into the square where the seats were - outside dining is just great - and everyone would watch in awe as she walked to the table, sat down and we then gave the staff her water bowl which they would fill, even before we got a drink! The Spanish are not usually good with big dogs, they tend to have small ones, and big dogs are used as guard dogs, but because Jess was so well behaved, everyone wanted to pet her! Jess really did us proud and was very well behaved, even when Spain won the European Cup and there were fireworks going off everywhere, she just sat quietly and never made a fuss! That was definitely one of the highlights of the holiday, the atmosphere was brilliant, everyone was watching the football and we were all rooting for Spain, and even though Rich had a bad foot and a bite that had swollen up, we had a good night!
On Saturday just gone we had Abby's parents over for a Chinese Take Away, and we gave them the information folder and the keys to our apartment. They are taking a holiday on their own for the first time since they had their children, which is over 23 years ago! They are flying out to Spain and using our apartment so they can have a really relaxing and stress free holiday, I hope they will love it there as much as we do! It may be out in the sticks, but personally I prefer that to being in the middle of bars and restaurants, being kept awake by noisy holiday goers, having the smell of food from restaurants and take aways around me, the peace and quiet is what I enjoy, I would rather drive to find the noise and night life, at least then you can drive away and leave it!


This is where our apartment is, ours is the one right in the middle of the picture, second floor, with the ornament on the wall! It may only be small, but it is our little piece of paradise!

An update on the fiasco with the benefits people, I have to be reassessed, they are paying me at the moment, at the lowest rate, until my appeal is heard, so now it is just a waiting game. However, I have started a complaint against the doctor who examined me, because he blatantly lied, and every doctor takes the hippocratic oath, and part of that oath is to always tell the truth, and I will make sure that he pays for the lies he has told, in more ways than one, and that he never does this to anyone else!

Sunday, 10 June 2012

Lying Doctors!

This is my first blog for June, and one that will probably be my last for a while as I am off on holiday in a few days!

I have heard back from the DWP with regards to my appeal against them stopping my Incapacity Benefit because they say I am now suddenly fit to work! The letter tells me that they have received my appeal but need more information to proceed! Quite laughable really, not sure how I could give them more information until I found out why I had been turned down, because the letter they told me would be sent telling me why I had been refused has still not arrived! I did, however, have the foresight to ask for all medical reports pertaining to my case, and all I can say is the doctor who examined me is an out and out liar!!! The amount of things that he has ommitted from the report is also ridiculous - it would appear that only the positives were included in my report! He is also a bare faced liar in as much as he told me that it was not him who made the decision about my benefit, and yet one of the sentences in the report is from him stating that I should be sent back to work sooner rather than later! My god, what a joke, the amount of things he has lied about in the report are incredible, and I will now be getting the help of a solicitor because what they are doing to people is nothing short of out and out bullying! One of the things he says in his report is that I managed to take my cardigan off myself - I wasn't wearing a cardigan, he also stated that I undid the zip of my handbag on my own - there is no zip on my handbag! This is how low our government have stooped to get people who are too ill to work to go back! Apparently if I can do this, then I must be fit to work! He has also on several occasions throughout the report stated that I went on holiday in February to Spain, that I walk the dog - as many of you know I rarely do this, and never do it on my own, I do the washing and that I can shower and dress myself! Yes I can do some of these things, but what he failed to mention from what I told him during my interview is that I have to have a cleaner come in twice a week to give the house a proper clean because I can't do it, I send my ironing away because I cannot stand for any length of time to do it, and he also didn't bother to mention the fact that we have had our bathroom adapted so I have a walk in shower and that I get up in the morning and shower before Richard goes to work as I am afraid of falling if I do it while I am on my own. He also failed to mention that it can take me up to an hour to shower and dress and after it I am exhausted! But of course, they have their targets that the government expect them to meet, and if they don't get a certain number of people off benefits they could be in trouble! No matter that the people they are sending back to work aren't fit enough, they must meet the government targets!

Needless to say I will be drafting a response, with the help of my husband, because one of the other things that was mentioned in his report was the fact that I filled in the original form on my own, but he failed to mention the fact that it took me 3 weeks to fill it in, because I could only do a little bit each day, and I did in fact send a letter to the benefits office telling them this! None of this was put in his report, but then none of the negatives were recorded only the positives! The fact that this doctor lied on this form horrifies me, he takes an oath when he becomes a doctor to say that he will always be true to his patients, so as far as I am concerned, he should be struck off!! And what is worse the whole examination took less than 40 minutes and the writing of the report took him less than 10, so my fate was decided in less than an hour!! It is a disgrace that these people are allowed to get away with this kind of thing, but as one person, it is difficult to fight it, but fight it I will, and I will be doing everything in my power to make sure this doctor is brought to task for the lies he has told in what is basically an official form and will alter my life substantially! I hope that this doctor never has to suffer the amount of pain and stress I have had to deal with in the last few weeks, and I hope that, for now, he sleeps well at night, because by the time I have finished with him, he may find that his life will be changed substantially too!

Tuesday, 29 May 2012

A topsy turvy week!

Since I have received the letter from the benefits people, I have been very down! Not surprising really, but it is also taking it's toll on my Fibro! A well known symptom of the disease is that stress exacerbates the pain, and I have certainly had plenty of that in the last week! I went to the doctors last Friday and got my sick note, which I have now sent to the benefits office with my letter informing them that I am appealing against their decision and asking for copies of all the reports they have for my case, as decreed by the Freedom of Information Act. The problem I have is that my benefits will stop next week, and I don't know how quickly they will act on my letter and sick note. I was told that as long as I sent in a sick note with my appeal, my benefits would continue until my appeal was heard! The other problem I have is that I am going on holiday on 13th June, and I have no doubt I will be coming back to letters and demands to go into the Jobcentre for work based interviews! Another daft idea the government have come up with - people who are given this benefit have to go into the Jobcentre and be interviewed to see if they are able to apply for jobs! Ridiculous really, if they aren't fit to work, what is the point? I thought the whole point of this change in the system was to save money, seems to me they are spending more! I fear this debacle will go on for a lot longer than I have the stamina for!

I also had a bad day last Thursday, it would have been my lovely mum's 86th birthday had she still been with us, and I miss her so much! My heart still aches for her, and my arms want just one more cuddle and to tell her I love her! But I know that she knows that, and I also know that she is very proud of us all. I just wish she was here to see it, my lovely mum, my rock, the woman who made me who I am today. Love you mum, with all my heart, always and forever. xxxx



My lovely mum, I always light a candle for her on her birthday.


On the brighter side of life, we have had a spell of glorious weather, which usually makes me feel so much better, but alas this is not the case on this occasion! I still feel rubbish, and when I was at the docs last week I also asked for some stronger sleeping tablets and he upped my Amitriptyline to 25 mgm from 10 mgm, so since then I have felt like a zombie! Everything I do takes me three times as long, and I sometimes feel like my brain is sloshing around in my head! I also feel like things in front of me are moving around, a bit like being on a boat in a storm! Yuck! But I did get a good nights sleep, so now I just have to decide if the side effects are worth it!

On Saturday we went to see our friends Elaine and Vic at their new residence in Northampton and had a lovely afternoon and evening with a barbecue and a few glasses of bubbly to celebrate their retirement! We will also be in Spain at the same time in June, as they are making their way over there to do some work on the apartment they are moving into before the weather gets too warm! Lots of happy times ahead I hope, with two very good friends! Sunday we spent the day at home, just chilling out, sunbathing and eating! Bliss! Sitting outside for breakfast makes the whole day seem so much better!

This weekend coming up is the Diamond Jubilee of Queen Elizabeth, who has this year been on the throne for 60 years, an incredible achievement for one so young when she started - she was only 26 when she became Queen Elizabeth II!! We have a very busy weekend too, Aaron moves into his first ever home on Saturday and we will be in Leeds helping him move. We will be going up on Saturday morning and returning Sunday evening. On Monday we will be going to a neighbours house for a Jubilee Party, and Elaine and Vic will be joining us, with Vic's mum Mary. So for the next few days I will be getting the house sorted ready for them coming, thankfully the cleaner will be here Thursday so I am going to ask her to help me clear out the little bedroom, and we will be moving everything into the study for a few days! Well, until we go to Spain - we keep thinking we have taken everything we need then we find more 'stuff' to take! This gets piled into the little bedroom, and piled, and piled! But hopefully this will be the last lot, especially as the Christmas decorations are now going! I want some over there just incase we ever get a Christmas over there, maybe one day we will! The only thing I cannot do is be away from my boys on Christmas day, they will always be my priority!

So all in all a busy few days ahead, a nice weekend of celebrations to look forward to, and some good times with my lovely hubby Richard, my boys Aaron and Luke and their partners Vicki and Abby, and also with special friends Elaine and Vic! All it leaves is for me to say Happy Diamond Jubilee Lizzy, and here's to many more!

Monday, 21 May 2012

Let Battle Commence!

What a bad weekend it has been! I received a response from the DWP at long last on Saturday, great day to receive a letter, means I can do nothing about it until Monday! And I quote:
'I am sorry to inform you that you are not entitled to Employment and Support Allowance. This decision was made because after your Work Capability Assesssment, we have decided that you do not have limited capability for work. We will send you a separate letter explaining the reasons why.'
This incredible statement was followed by the next sentence of:
'I understand that this decision may come as a shock to you. However, I should explain that entitlement to Employment and Support Allowance is not based on someone's health condition or disability itself. It is based on what a person is capable of doing, rather than assuming that their health condition or disability automatically prevents them from being able to work.'
Well, talk about a contradiction in terms, and how is it that a consultant can retire me medically unfit for work, after months of treatment and knowing my case well, but a man (I have no idea if he was a doctor) can examine me for approximately 30 minutes and from this alone they have decided that I am fit to work! They also tell me in this letter that my benefits will stop on 6th June, which basically gives me just over 2 weeks and then my money will be stopped!

I spent the weekend in tears, couldn't sleep, my blood pressure is through the roof, and now I have to fight to try and keep my benefits. The letter goes on for a further 3 A4 pages with a load of information, most of which I do not understand, about how to appeal against the decision, that I can apply for Jobseekers Allowance - how can I get this when basically I can't even cook a meal on my own (I get DLA for this), can't do my own housework (I pay for a cleaner), do my own ironing (I use ironing angels) and even getting up and getting showered leaves me exhausted! I have also been given a blue badge because I cannot walk very far!

This morning I phoned the number on the letter, and spoke to a very nice lady who told me that to keep my benefits I had to appeal against it and send in a sick note with the appeal. She also told me that in 75% of the cases where the benefit was turned down, it was revoked on appeal. But she also told me that the appeals were taking 6 months to be heard because of a back log. What a joke! The back log is because the government have changed the system to save money, but this system is causing more work, and they are spending more money on the appeals tribunals than they are saving on benefits! This country is going downhill so fast!

So now I have got an appointment at my doctors for Friday, I have to wait for the letter telling me how they came to this decision, and then I have a battle on my hands to try and keep the benefits that a consultant told me I was entitled to! In the words of the consultant who told me I had to stop working 'If you do not stop working now, you will be in a wheelchair by the time you are 50'. I am now 54 and I like to think that because I did stop work, my health has not deteriorated as much as it could have done! But since the original diagnosis was made I have also developed osteo-arthritis and Fibromyalgia, and these two, plus the fact that I have two discs missing in my back, have left me in severe pain and with limited movement, a lack of energy that you would not believe, and the worst thing of all, the memory of a goldfish! When I spoke to this woman today she asked me my postcode, I had a terrible job remembering it! So if anyone out there has any idea what sort of job I could do, at the age of 54 with a medical history like mine, and the only qualifications I have are nursing, I would very much like to hear from you! That is of course if I can manage to get out of bed in the first place, because that is something else that is a problem, I sleep less than 4 hours a night, so by 2 p.m. I need to sleep.  Way to go DWP, perhaps next time you want to assess me you would like to move in for a week and see what I have to deal with on a daily, in fact hourly, basis! Maybe then you would feel differently!

Thursday, 17 May 2012

Joan Crawford and Bette Davis, now they were two legends!

I am having a bad day! I had a terrible night's sleep, the men went out at 6 a.m. this morning so I was woken by them getting showered and ready for their day! I did fall back to sleep, only to be woken by the phone ringing at 9 a.m.! So frustrating! I had a job waking up, my eyelids felt heavy, and my whole body felt like it had been used as a football!

Yesterday I had a brilliant time at the theatre, the play was absolutely fantastic, and the two actresses - the only two people involved - Anita Dobson and Greta Scacchi were incredible! They played the parts of Joan Crawford and Bette Davis, and from what I have read about the two actresses they got them off to a T! The whole play was of them in their dressing rooms, preparing for the filming of a scene in the well known movie 'Whatever Happened to Baby Jane', and it was fun, it was emotional, it was deep, but my goodness it was enjoyable! The language was a little choice at times from the Bette Davis side of the dressing room, but it was in context, and it was done with a smile! The only thing I didn't enjoy was the fact that I had a man sat in front of me who completely blocked my view, so I had to keep leaning to one side to watch the play, and this did not do my back any good! I had had the sense to take a cushion with me to put in my back, so this helped me, but the constant moving of this man meant that I had to keep adjusting my sitting position to be able to see the play! It could only happen to me, all the rest of the people on the front row were short, but this man was at least 6 foot tall!

After the play Elaine and I went to Bella Italia and had a meal, when we went into the restaurant it was fairly quiet, but by the time we left the place was heaving! So glad we didn't go in any later, because the service was not brilliant with just a few in there, and it got worse as the evening went on! We sat for 20 minutes before they came and took our food order, and people who had come in after us were served before us! This has always been a pet hate of mine, and I have often got up and walked out of restaurants when it has happened! This was not the worst of it though, when they did come and take our order, we ordered a glass of wine for me, and Elaine ordered a blood orange juice and a glass of tap water, they brought over the tap water and a lemon, and no wine! The waiter asked if we had ordered our food, which we had, and then disappeared - no wine was forthcoming! I called him back over and explained that they had missed off my wine and given Elaine the wrong drink! He took the lemon away, and we waited another 10 minutes for the wine and the correct drink! Oh dear, this did not bode well! We ordered a pizza garlic bread to share with some olives as a starter, and thank goodness we did, because we waited quite some time for our main course! The only upside was that when the bill came they had missed off my second glass of wine (although they had put on the second drink Elaine had!), Elaine's coffee and her pudding and I am afraid because of the poor service and the long wait for our food I didn't tell them! It was very naughty, I know, but it was a frustrating meal, and as there were only 3 other tables of people when we first went in there was no need for such poor service!

When I got home at about 7.45 p.m. the men had had their tea, walked the dog, and were sitting chilling waiting for me to come home! We had a good chat about their day, I told them about the play, and then we watched TV for a while! At about 9 p.m. I got a call off my lovely son Aaron, so for me it was the perfect end to an almost perfect day!

Today I am taking it easy! The dog has her bath at 12.30, and I have to go and do a bit of shopping at Aldi! I am sitting with a blanket round my legs at the moment, because they ache, it feels like someone is sticking pins in them, and I feel like I have a weight on my shoulders as they are so sore! The joys of Fibro, the pain moves all over and I never know which part is going to hurt next! The upside is I have done the washing this week, the ironing was collected yesterday the house was cleaned with the help of the men on Tuesday so all I need to do today is tidy up a little and organise the tea! It has taken me many years to learn not to rush around and clean every single day, the dust will be back, the house will never be 100% clean, so as long as it is reasonable I have to accept that this is how it will be! Life is too short to worry about a bit of dust, and as my lovely mum used to say 'this is not a dress rehearsal, this is it, so live every day like it's your last' and that my friends is exactly what I intend to do!

Tuesday, 15 May 2012

Bad days can turn into good ones!

I started today trying to get through to my doctors surgery for an appointment! Oh the joys of a surgery where you have to ring on the day to get in and see a doctor! After trying for 30 minutes I finally got a person (and not a recorded message), and the wonderful receptionist told me that as it was now after 9 a.m. there were no appointments left! I tried very hard to keep my cool, but I did insist on being given an appointment, was very assertive, in that I was actually ill and needed to be seen, and she then said 'can you get here immediately'! Oh great, I had been on the phone since 8.30 a.m. and was not yet showered! I told her yes, I could be there in 20 minutes, so I threw on some clothes, brushed my teeth and my hair and drove into town! The one consolation of this quick appointment was the fact that I didn't have time to worry about having a panic attack or working myself up to going! So, I spoke to my doctor about the bad dreams, the sleeping badly, the back pain, the panic attacks, and he told me to up my Amitriptyline (I was tempted to ask if this would make the dreams twice as bad, but I resisted!!) to two a night for a while and to go back in two weeks! Oh great, let's hope that helps the sleep, but doesn't make the dreams worse!

When I got back home I felt exhausted, it is difficult to explain but your whole body feels like it has been through a wringer! I couldn't put one foot in front of the other because I felt so wobbly!So I sat for a while and had a coffee and some cereals, then went and had a shower! By this time it was 11 a.m. and I felt like I had done a day's work! After my shower I received a call from my cleaning lady, she comes in once a week and does my upstairs, the bathrooms and bedrooms, and she was calling to say she wouldn't be able to make it! This was not what I wanted to hear today, I had already stripped my bed, and was in the  midst of changing the bathroom towels and doing the washing, so this would mean I would have more work to do! And I was already exhausted! But never mind, I had to get on with things, so I paced myself! I had already decided to make a roast chicken dinner, so I got that sorted first, veg prepared, chicken prepared and all the trimmings! That would keep me going, I love a roast dinner!

When the chaps got in from work they did their bit and helped! Luke helped me finish off the upstairs, helped with making our bed too, Rich finished off the dinner and served it up! So between us we still got everything done and I had saved £20 by not paying the cleaner! I will say though that I would rather pay the £20, as the bending (although Luke did those bits!) and scrubbing are difficult, especially with my back as it is and my hands being so sore! But we got it done, and now my house is reasonably clean and tidy!

The upside is that tomorrow I will be having a lovely afternoon off and going to the Belgrade Theatre in Coventry to see Bette and Joan, starring the wonderful Anita Dobson and Greta Scacchi, with my friend Elaine and afterwards we are going to eat a nice Italian meal and have some girly time together! So the outcome of what was a bad start to a day is that my lovely menfolk have pulled together and helped me get everything done, and I have a nice easy day to look forward to tomorrow!

I must say going to the theatre in the afternoon and then out for a meal seems quite decadent! I will let you know how the visit goes in my next blog but meanwhile below is the link to the Theatre and the synopsis of what the show is all about!

 http://www.belgrade.co.uk/event/bette-and-joan